The biggest mistake we can ever make in life is the one in which we learn NOTHING. This is important to remember when we look back at decisions we've made, especially in the category of relationships, including, but not limited to boyfriend/girlfriend, boyfriend/boyfriend, girlfriend/girlfriend (I'M NOT JUDGING). People disappoint people. People hurt people. Therefore, people hold grudges and passionately dislike the ones who have done them wrong.
Here's what I've learned: you don't forgive for the sake of the other person, you forgive to keep yourself sane. Nine times out of ten, they don't know how much YOU'VE been hurting and quite frankly, they usually don't give a shit. We don't realize much weight a grudge holds on our heart until we build a bridge and get over it. When you can do the Kanye shrug and just say "Fuck it, I'm moving on with my life" you begin to feel light and free.
Now, whatever you do, DO NOT TRY TO SEEK REVENGE. Don't do it. My father once told me, "don't EVER wish anything bad on someone." It takes too much time and energy. Do I still get upset with people, OF COURSE, but I remember what my mother says: "you can't change people, you can only change the way you deal with them." In mean time, I'm working on getting over some things. Let go, and let GOD!
Lovely first post! It's so true -- forgiveness is definitely for YOU and not THEM. When we hold grudges, we walk around with so much weight b/c it takes a lot of negative energy to not like someone. Not to mention, that they are off living their life and being happy, and we, we're just floating along. That's no bueno.
ReplyDeleteLove the first post. Trying to work on forgiving others myself
ReplyDeleteThank you ladies for showing love on my very first post. And thanks for the inspiration to blog Alicia!
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I totally agree. We sometimes get caught up on the past, and miss all the possible opportunities God can give us.
ReplyDeleteIve read this not just today but maybe my 4th or 5th time now, but decided to write this time. I truly feel what your saying. especially from experience. Im not the one being hurt but the one that does the hurting and ya know until not to long ago really realize what i had been doing to certain people that i truly cared about. Im a firm believer in karma and in the saying " you never know what you have until you lose it". Im tryin to be a better person today for that. thanks again for sharing your wonderful words with the world.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless!